​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self

October 30, 2018
Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self

Yesterday was my blog’s third birthday! How mad is that?! It’s been a really amazing journey and has brought some really wonderful people into my life, for which I’m eternally grateful. The truth is though, that blogging has not only brought me great things, but it’s really helped me find my sense of self. It’s something I fell into rather by accident, at a time when I was also going through some pretty major transitioning. To be able to have this blog and create with it has been so wonderful, and I’ll tell you why…

Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self
Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self
Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self

A few years ago, if you asked me what I wanted to do with my life, I’d say I wanted to be a theatre director. Ever since I was a kid, I was obsessed with theatre and was set on following a career in the arts. It became very much a part of my identity.  Honestly, that now seems like a lifetime ago.

Somewhere along the line, blogging became the thing I’m passionate about.

I’ll tell you what though, my reasons for loving both theatre and blogging are really similar.

Both of these mediums are about sharing experiences, like a hand reaching out to hold yours and remind you that you aren’t alone.

Someone somewhere out there has experienced the same things as you.

Or maybe they’ve experienced things differently, but that’s just as valid.

We’re not alone in the human experience.

That’s the story I loved to tell when I was pursuing a career in theatre, and that’s what sticks in my mind as a blogger. I share stories of my life, my experiences, for that simple reason.

For you.

So you know you aren’t alone.

Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self
Ghenet Actually || ​How Blogging Has Helped Define My Sense of Self

Blogging has also helped me massively, in terms of finding my sense of self. I’m pouring myself into this endeavor, and I get a lot out of it as well.

Blogging has helped me find my voice

When I first started blogging, I didn’t really know what I wanted to talk about. I was just blogging for the sake of it, because I needed something to do.

I definitely felt the pressure to present a certain kind of lifestyle, but over time, blogging really helped me find my voice.

There are some wonderful blogs out there that are very inspirational, but for me, it’s about living my life as it is, making the best of it, and elevating it into something that makes me really happy.

That’s why I talk about the things I talk about. The little things, as much as the big things.

I love my life, really, and it’s just about sharing that with the world. That’s my voice. That’s who I am.

Blogging has helped me realize that I am enough

Through that phase of feeling like I had to do all the ‘stereotypical’ blogger things, I realized something pretty important.

People read my blog because of me.

So I shouldn’t try so hard to be someone else, should I?

My experiences, my choices, my personality… that’s what brings people here, and sometimes it’s easy to forget.

My blog may not be for everyone, and that’s fine. I don’t need to be anything other than myself to attract an audience. The people who read my blog are exactly the right people, and for me that’s enough. I’m enough.

Blogging has helped me learn to talk about difficult things

Life can get a little messy sometimes. I’ve talked pretty openly about difficult things (like my mental health or my relationship with food, or even my experiences as a Black woman) but that took time.

I wasn’t always so comfortable being so open.

The response I get makes it worth it. It makes me less afraid of sharing.

My blog is a safe space where I can talk about these things, with no judgment. I also hope it’s a space where you feel comfortable sharing such things with me.

The more I’ve learned to talk about the difficult things on the blog, the happier, more open and honest I’ve even been in my real life.

Blogging has helped me define what’s important to me

Having a space where I can talk about my life has actually really helped me figure out what’s important to me. Talking about hygge and self-care has made me realize how important it is for me to have downtime to myself.

Or how important it is to me that I represent what it’s like being in a bigger body. That’s why I don’t call myself a fashion blogger. For me it’s about building a wardrobe that makes me happy and that I feel comfortable in… as opposed to being trendy.

It’s about sharing plants that aren’t toxic to my cats, and the books I’m reading because those things are very real parts of my life, and if I can’t be truthful about all aspects, then I think I’ve gone wrong.

Having the space to share these elements of my life has really helped me refine my priorities and work out what is important to me. That in turn means I’m not sweating the small stuff as much, and I’m definitely happier for it!

Blogging was something I fell into. I’d had a blog for a few years, but would only occasionally post on it, when I was in the mood. Then, it became a wonderful outlet for me, which in turn lead to more great things. I feel like I know who I am now, my sense of self is so clear, and that’s a great feeling! I can’t believe it’s already been three years, and I feel like I still have so far to go! Here’s to another three, thirty, and many more years of this happy little space I’ve created!

  • Reply
    Rocio Garcia
    October 30, 2018 at 3:48 pm

    Loved this heartfelt post!

    Thanks for sharing!


    – R. Garcia

    • Reply
      November 8, 2018 at 9:04 am

      Thank you for reading!

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